It can be frustrating, disappointing, and even a little bit embarrassing when your partner suddenly loses an erection during sex. However, it’s important to remember that this is not necessarily a reflection of you or your abilities. There are a number of potential causes for this problem, including physiological issues or simple anxiety. In most cases, it is nothing to be concerned about and is simply a matter of relaxation and patience. If the issue persists, however, it may be worth discussing with a doctor.
EVERYONE experiences it from time to time
It’s normal for men to occasionally lose an erection during sex. It happens to almost every guy at some point. If it happens to your partner, don’t freak out. There are plenty of other ways to please each other, so don’t focus solely on penetration. Have your partner give you a massage or use his hands, lips, and tongue to bring you to orgasm. In most cases, if you get more aroused, he will start to get hard again. So relax and enjoy yourself, and let your partner know that he still turns you on even if he can’t keep an erection the whole time.
It doesn’t stop just because he does…
But what if he doesn’t get another erection while he’s getting you off? There’s nothing wrong with that. You got yours! Joking aside, don’t let an erection become your ultimate goal. Pressure tends to inhibit pleasure. Take the time to enjoy each other’s company and the moment. You might want to offer some reassurance that you have dealt with the same issue yourself if he’s worried about his performance. Although not exactly the same, you have likely had trouble getting wet, even when you were completely in the mood and aroused. Be sensitive to the fact that this is likely a very delicate matter for him when he loses an erection during sex.
Compassion is the best response
It may be helpful to mention how pleased you are. You don’t have to lie, but point out what he did well. His confidence isn’t exactly high right now and a subtle ego boost might be just what he needs. At the end of the day, intimacy is more than just sex. There’s also connection, communication, and mutual respect involved. I am sure you will find everything else falls into place if you can keep those things in the forefront.
Having erectile difficulties can be a difficult topic to discuss with your partner, but it’s important to be honest and open about your situation. No matter what you do, don’t be angry or frustrated, and don’t joke about the issue – some topics should be avoided when a man loses an erection during sex. It’s probably not the best time to ask, “What’s up?” or “Did I do something?” since the last thing he’ll want to do is explain himself. Even though communication is key to great sex, he may not want to talk about his erectile dysfunction in the heat of the moment, so respect his wishes and pay attention to his cues. You can make the experience more enjoyable by being understanding and sensitive to his needs.