What if she orgasms more for someone else? First MFM advice

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Going into your first MFM threesome is a big step, especially if you’re the guy in a relationship. You might feel like you’re ready, but there’s a nagging little question at the back of your mind: “What if the other dude makes her cum harder?” That can be a pretty scary thing in a serious relationship. It’s also a common fear — don’t beat yourself up about it! We’re here to help.

You might be worrying about nothing

Is your lady going to cum harder in during your first MFM situation than when it’s just between you and her? Maybe. Does that mean you’re going to hate the experience? Not at all.

It’s easy to imagine the scenario in your head and get shaky knees, but there’s a reason you’re doing this. Group sex turns you on (and if it doesn’t…what the hell are you doing? back out now!) Seeing your girl have a great time, even if it’s with someone else, should make you feel good. It should make you harder and make your experience better. If it doesn’t, you jumped into things too soon or your fantasy is better left as that: a fantasy.

If she does cum harder than usual… you helped make it happen

The experience you helped create for your lady has allowed her to have one of the best orgasms of her life. You did that: your trust, physical touch, and support were all critical for this to happen. It’s still an experience that the two of you are having together, and it was only possible because you allowed it to happen without shame or guilt. It’s okay to back out if you become uncomfortable, but try to keep your ego at bay — especially during your first MFM. You might regret it later.

One-on-one sex might be better from here

Don’t be surprised if the way your lady orgasms changes after this experience. In fact, the two of you will probably feel closer than before. This alone can supercharge your one-on-one play, but don’t forget that an MFM is also an opportunity to pick up on some new techniques. Opening up your sex life, even if it’s just once or twice, can really amp things up in the bedroom if you treat it as a learning experience. Stay out of your head and don’t let your insecurities get the best of you!

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