Tips to Prepare for Your First Threesome

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So, you want to have a threesome? Well, you’re not alone. 

Having sex with multiple partners at the same time is one of the most common sexual interests, with upwards of 90% of all people fantasizing about it. But, it’s also the fantasy that is “least likely to turn out well”, according to sex expert Dr. Justin Lehmiller. 

The reason for the bad feelings behind threesomes is simple: There was a lack of preparation beforehand. And, when three different people come together with three separate expectations, problems are guaranteed to happen. 

In this article, we’re showing you how to avoid that. We’ll be discussing what a threesome actually is and the ways that you can prepare. That way your threesome experience is all that you could have imagined, and so much more. 

MFM spending time together before their first threesome

3 Tips to Prepare for Your First Threesome

As the name implies, a threesome involves sex with three different people at the same time. They can be a little trickier to set up, depending on everyone’s schedule, and require a bit of preparation beforehand. This is especially true when it’s your first one. 

So, whether you’re a couple or a single going in for your first threesome, here are some of the top tips to make your experience a good one. 

1. Set the Ground Rules First

While there are no real hard and fast rules for every threesome, it’s important to sit down and write yours out before pursuing one. The biggest mistake you can make is to go in unprepared; that’s how boundaries get walked on and feelings end up hurt. Some of the rules you might consider employing include:

  • Protection is required
  • The safe word must be respected
  • Everyone must be giving

2. Explore Your Reasons and Feelings Surrounding the Threesome

While a threesome might sound erotic and exciting, are you sure that you actually want to participate in one? It’s incredibly important to conduct some of your own self-exploration before pursuing this sexual fantasy. It’s one of the best ways to ensure that your expectations are acknowledged and respected. Here are some questions you might consider exploring before scheduling the threesome:

  • Am I doing this because I want to – or because my partner wants me to?
  • What do I want to get out of this experience?
  • How well do I know my partners?
  • Is it really worth the effort?
  • Is this something that could happen again?

3. Don’t Drink Too Much

While alcohol can be great for calming nerves and helping everyone relax before the threesome begins, it’s important not to overdo it. At the most, you only want to feel a little buzz, especially for your first threesome. Not only can alcohol lower the sensations that you feel, but it can also lower your inhibitions and increase the likelihood of someone having a bad time. A mostly sober threesome is the best way to soak it all in and truly enjoy the experience. 

MFM enjoying time after their first threesome

Making Your First Threesome Something to Remember

Your first threesome should be one that you remember, and for all the right reasons. This is why setting your rules and intentions beforehand is so important; it only increases the chances of everyone having a great time. Once all the preparation has been completed, you can then move on to setting up that very first threesome. 

And, SwingTowns can help with that! Sign up for our website to access the upcoming parties and events in your area where you can (hopefully) meet that special third. 


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