Though swinging is fun and exciting, it’s important to remember that it’s not your entire life. There is still work to be done, family to spend time with, and other living to attend to. Balancing the lifestyle with your vanilla world can be difficult, especially in the beginning. But, with a little practice, it can definitely be done.
In this article, we’re sharing some essential tips for swingers to help you make the most of the swing lifestyle, while also balancing real life.
3 Tips for Balancing the Lifestyle with Everyday Living
If you’re like many swingers, you might not be completely open about your involvement in your lifestyle. Whether it’s because you’re a parent or in a high-profile career, it’s important to know that you’re not alone. Many people in the lifestyle work incredibly hard to maintain a delicate balance between their alternative activities and those they partake in through everyday living.
Here are three tips for balancing the lifestyle with ease.
Keep it on the Down Low
The best way to protect your swinging identity is by not talking about it. Be selective about the people you open up to, and make sure they will support you before telling them. There is no reason you should “have” to tell anyone about your sexual preferences, so never allow anyone to make you feel pressured.
It’s okay if you don’t want to involve yourself with the secret signs and symbols that help swingers stand out. Being private about the lifestyle is common, too.
Don’t Say too Much
So, you need to get a babysitter or otherwise tell someone that you’re going out? There’s no reason you have to disclose that it’s to a lifestyle party. It can be a bit of a challenge to find a babysitter for the hours that you’re wanting to go out, but parents going out to a party or club is not unheard of. And, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
Only disclose the information you have to (like a contact number and when you’ll be back home), and leave it at that. No one needs to know *exactly* what you’re doing. So, only tell them what’s necessary.
Get Online for More Anonymity
Don’t feel forced to come right out and ask every suspected person in your life if they’re a swinger (and risk your own anonymity in the process). Instead, get online to meet other swingers in your area. This is the best way to engage with people you already know who have at least some interest in swinging. And, it allows you to protect your identity in the process.
For example, when uploading photos online, you can opt for more anonymity by choosing photos without an identifying background. Then, you can establish a connection with someone online before choosing to meet them in person.
Balancing the Lifestyle is Easier than You Think
No matter what walk of life you’re in, balancing the lifestyle with your vanilla existence doesn’t have to be difficult. In this scenario, you can definitely have your cake and eat it too. And we think you should!