Tips for Being a Good Submissive in Your BDSM Relationship

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Believe it or not, being submissive in the BDSM lifestyle takes some practice and work. It’s not something that comes entirely natural to everyone, and there are certain behaviors and practices that keep a Dominant happy and content. In truth, being a “good submissive” can look incredibly unique, depending on the relationship you’re in. However, there are some good pointers for all subs to take into consideration. 

In this article, we’re sharing two of the top tips to help submissives please their Dom and live happily in the BDSM lifestyle. 

Being a Good Submissive in BDSM Comes with Many Benefits

While a pervasive stigma still remains surrounding the BDSM lifestyle, new evidence is surfacing that proves its benefits. And, surprising to some, being submissive can come with some incredible advantages. In fact, research shows that engaging in BDSM can yield benefits like:

  • Lowered stress levels
  • Improved communication skills
  • Deeper trust in your relationship
  • Improved mental health

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2 Tips for Being Submissive and Pleasing Your Dom

So, you love the BDSM lifestyle and being submissive. How can you be sure you’re good at it? Here are the top tips for relinquishing your power and being a good sub in the bedroom. 

  • Let Go of Control

From an early age, we’re taught that we are in control of our lives. We’re responsible for making decisions all the time, day in and day out. Having so much power can be exciting, but this tight grip on life can also be anxiety-inducing and undoubtedly lead to fear. This is why so many people enjoy practicing submission in their relationships, especially in the bedroom. Because, in this space, they’re able to let go of control completely. 

One of the best ways to be a good submissive is through surrender. Trust that your Dominant knows what’s best for you and give in to the experience. This is one of the easiest ways to wholeheartedly enter “sub space” and focus on pleasing your Dom. 

  • Practice Submissive Body Language

Just as Doms have their specific own body language, so do submissives. A good submissive knows their place entirely and uses body language to show it. The words that you say, your facial expressions, tone of voice, stance, and way you look at your Dom should all express submission. Position your body in a way that makes you appear smaller, and always keep your head down when around your Dom. 

Using submissive body language all of the time is one of the easiest ways to give up that control and be a good submissive. When your Dom speaks confident and loudly, you should do the opposite. Sometimes, bringing this behavior out in public can even help strengthen the dynamics of your power play. 

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A Good Submissive Always Does their Research

It’s important to remember that every relationship in the BDSM lifestyle is unique. This is why it’s so important for Doms and subs to do their research. Figure out the type of play that makes you tick, and make sure to communicate about everything before it happens. A good submissive knows themself (and their desires/limits) before anything else.

Now get out there and have some fun, but only after asking for permission first.


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