Swinging 101: The Beginner’s Guide to the Swinger Lifestyle

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In recent times, the idea of marriage has gotten a facelift. 

A growing number of people are experimenting with different types of open relationships as a way to spice up their sex life, and they’re seeing lots of benefits. In fact, one recent survey estimates that the ideal relationship for more than 3 in 10 Americans is some form of non-monogamy. Many of these people choose the swinger lifestyle. 

So You’re Interested in the Swinger Lifestyle

The swinger lifestyle is a very specific type of consensual non-monogamy. It refers to a relationship style, enjoyed by both couples and singles, that includes (often multiple) casual sex partners. Swinging is typically classified as a form of polyamory, however, most encounters are primarily sexual – not emotional. 

Depending on a person’s experience and comfort level, swinger lifestyle activities can vary. The two main types of swinging include:  

  • Soft Swapping

When it comes to the lifestyle, a “soft swap” refers to sexual play (with a person who is not your partner) that stops short of full sexual intercourse. Soft swap activities can include kissing, manual stimulation, flirting, and even oral sex. 

  • Full Swapping

A full swap is a scenario where two couples swap partners for sexual enjoyment. This can happen with all four people in the same room, or bed, together, or it can take place separately. 

people in the swinger lifestyle at a club

The Top Tips for Newbies to the Swinger Lifestyle

For those new to the lifestyle, it can be a bit overwhelming to navigate it all. That’s why we’re here to help. In this guide, we’ll be sharing all you need to know to help you get started as a swinger. 

There are So Many Benefits of Being a Swinger

From reducing the chances of cheating to combating sexual boredom and boosting trust, there are so many benefits to the swinger lifestyle. Believe it or not, this relationship style can even provide some lessons for those committed to monogamy. 

It Doesn’t Have to be Difficult to Maintain Privacy

Are you worried about your ability to balance your day-to-day with the swinger lifestyle? It’s easier than you might think!

Our top tips for maintaining privacy can be found here.

There are Plenty of Resources to Help You Along the Way

Though it might feel like it, especially in the beginning, you’re not the only swinger out there. There are lots of resources to help you navigate this lifestyle and make the most of it along the way. 

It Can Be Super Easy to Find Others in the Swinger Lifestyle

The sooner you get out there and start meeting others in the swinger lifestyle, the faster you can begin feeling like a pro! Thankfully, meeting up with others is quite easy in such a socially-based way of living. Use your resources to hang out with swinger groups in your area and, if you’re feeling extra ambitious, stop in at a local party

people in the swinger lifestyle at a party

Answering Your Top Swinger Lifestyle Questions 

It’s only natural to have some questions when first getting started in the lifestyle. This is the best way to explore yourself and the things you might be open to. Here are your top four questions, answered. 

How Can I Stay Protected When Swinging with Others?

Safety and protection are a priority for most swingers. Don’t shy away from asking another couple when their last STI screening was. And, if it’s a non-negotiable for you, keep a small stock of condoms with you at all times. 

What is Hotwifing?

Hotwifing is a very specific type of swinging that involves a married woman having sex with men who are not her husband. It’s extremely popular in the swinging community, and some women even choose to make it an all-day, everyday thing. 

How Can I Spot Another Couple in the Swinger Lifestyle?

Recognizing other swingers without giving yourself away is so much easier than you might think. Pay close attention to the signs, like how they react to your body language or what their garden decor looks like. When talking with others online though, make sure to keep an eye out for scammers. 

How Can I Get the Most From My Swinging Experiences?

Once you meet another potential swinger or couple, don’t let your nerves get the best of you. Instead, take the time to prepare yourself and manage your expectations. If done correctly, your swinging experiences can truly be a dream come true. 

The Swinger’s Glossary and Understanding Terms in the Lifestyle

One of the best ways to figure out exactly what you’re looking for and sort through your own fantasies and desires is by browsing through a lifestyle glossary. These all-in-one resources are amazing for giving you a crash course on the swinger lifestyle. 

people in the swinger lifestyle meeting up

Are You Ready to Meet Other Swingers?

Remember, you can only do so much research and preparation. At some point, you have to get out there and start meeting people. Thankfully, we’re with you every step of the way. 

Attending Your First Event or Party

Swinger parties and events are great for first-time swingers because they grant the opportunity to meet many different people at one time and place. Take advantage of your first event or party by using it as a chance to learn or improve your skills. Before you know it, you might be hosting a party of your very own!

Navigating the Sexiest Cities in the Swinger Lifestyle

It doesn’t really matter where you are in the world, from the US to New Zealand, you’re guaranteed to be surrounded by swingers. Make sure to explore our countless swingers groups to help you find your footing, and begin making connections that create experiences. 

Take the Next Steps as a Successful Swinger

If you’ve sorted through all the resources in this swinger’s guide, then you’re totally ready to take the next steps in the real world. Follow us on social media to begin connecting with others online, and don’t forget to keep your eyes on the blog for updated tips, tricks, and suggestions. Finally, consider signing up for a FREE SwingTowns account to get everything you want out of the swinger lifestyle.


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