Swinger Couples: How To Get Started

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To make the decision to open a relationship is not one that should be taken lightly. It requires lots of time and research, but, a growing number of people are exploring options outside of monogamy each and every day. Swinging, which often involves partner swapping or some sort of sex outside of the relationship, is one of the most common choices.

In this article, we’re talking about what exactly swinger couples are and how this relationship style differs from traditional monogamy. Then, we’re giving our top three tips to help you get started in the lifestyle.

What are Swinger Couples?

As mentioned above, swinging is a practice (sometimes referred to as wife/husband swapping) where a relationship is opened to include one or more additional sexual partners. The specifics of this look different for every couple and depend on what each individual is comfortable with.

How Common are Swinger Couples?

Monogamy may be the most common approach to relationships, but it’s not the only one. In fact, research shows that swinging is on the rise. One study showed that a whopping 21% of American adults had at least one experience of non-monogamous sex.1 That means as many as 1 in 5 couples you know could be interested in swinging.

3 Tips to Get Started as a Swinger Couple

Believe it or not, it’s not as difficult to get started into swinging as you might think. With the presence of the Internet and all its associated resources, succeeding as a swinger couple is easier than ever before. Here are the top three tips for getting started.

1.   Talk with your Partner Often

Your thoughts and feelings toward swinging and the relationship are so important. Talk about them often. Communication is a vital part of any successful relationship, but it’s especially important in the swinging lifestyle. Of course, it’s not necessary to check in with each other every hour of every day, but sharing your feelings, boundaries, and emotions is a definite way to succeed as a swinger and a couple.

2.    Get Active Online

Swinger couples, while growing in popularity, can be an elusive bunch. One of the easiest ways to connect with others in your area (and outside of it) is online. There are so many different websites, apps, and resources available online for people interested in swinging. It’s also one of the most common ways to get started! By using the online tools, you can gain access to real swinger couple stories, tips from other swingers, and so much more.

3.    Learn the Swinger Couple Symbols

There is also a more subtle way of advertising your interest in swinging with others. By learning and using the common symbols associated with swinger couples, you can discreetly connect with others in the lifestyle. Remember: it might be difficult to know whether something is a coincidence or a symbol, so don’t be afraid to start a conversation.

Some typical secret symbols associated with swinging include:2

  • Wearing a black ring on the right hand
  • Pineapple door knockers
  • Pink flamingos in the yard

Final Tips for Swinger Couples

Swinging with other couples can be an exciting, rewarding way of keeping your marriage alive. And, it’s not a difficult lifestyle to get into either. The most important thing is to always remain open and honest. Check in with yourself often, and maintain a constant stream of communication with your partner. It’s a relationship choice that can require a bit of extra work, but it’s worth it in the end.

References 

  1. Castleman, M. (2019, November 15). Open Relationships Are More Popular Than You Might Think. Psychology Today. Retrieved November 27, 2021, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201911/open-relationships-are-more-popular-you-might-think
  2. Richardson, H. (2017, June 2). Secret signs your neighbor might be a swinger. New York Post. Retrieved November 27, 2021, from https://nypost.com/2017/06/02/secret-signs-your-neighbor-might-be-a-swinger/

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