Oral Sex Techniques That Actually Make Women Orgasm

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Considering the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to come or to experience a more satisfying orgasm, the oral sex gap has to be filled. Using your tongue down there is more effective than anything else. Here is a quick guide for givers on mouth moves that actually work.

Create Anticipation

Orgasming is as much mental as it is physical for many women. They need time to get in the mood and to relax. A big part of cunnilingus, the act of performing oral sex on a woman, lies in the anticipation. It might be a good idea to refrain from diving right for the clitoris. Of course, it depends. If she’s wet down there, she’s probably ready for your tongue on her clit.

If not, going for it might even be painful for her. Make out first; touch her labia (the lips of the vagina), massage her gently. Play with her breasts and nipples. These are highly sensitive for most women. Start by licking, circling, or stroking the nipples or alternate between all three. Cupping the breasts gently can be extremely arousing.

Explore Erogenous Zones

Explore erogenous zones like the neck and inner thigh. Kiss, lick, or gently nibble on the inner thigh as you start heading down. Explore her stomach and butt and other areas with your hands or mouth.

Find out What She Likes

Figuring out what she likes is the first and most crucial step. For some women, that’s the base of the clitoris. Some like direct stimulation, while others find it painfully intense. Still others say touching one side feels nicer than the other. Explore with your fingers to find her favorite spots. Many women find clitoral stimulation to be enough. Some need something extra, like penetration, to come more quickly. A dildo, available in sizes big or small depending on preference, might help make things easier for the giver.

Spread the Lips

Spread the lips to really expose the clit for a more intense sensation. You could also try putting a finger or two in, or three. The key is to insert them gently. As you lick her clit, stroke the G-spot with your fingers. This is about 3 inches inside, a part nearest to the belly. You reach it with a curling motion of your fingers. It should feel slightly different from the rest of the vagina, a bit like the pallet, and softer than the surrounding area.

It helps to draw a parallel between oral sex and proper use of utensils: starting from the outside and slowly working your way in.

You could caress her clit or vulva without taking her underwear off. This helps create expectations. When she’s ready, you might pull her underwear to the side.

Breathe

Use your breath to make the area warmer, or lick the inner and outer folds. This augments blood flow to the genitals, making every next sensation more pleasurable than the previous one.

Be Consistent

If she’s loving what you’re doing, don’t change things up. You’re not sure she is? Ask. If she says yes, keep the rhythm and movement steady. Switching up the speed or technique too often can be distracting and make it harder for her to get going.

Don’t go too Hard

Many men make the mistake of going too hard or fast. They base it on their own preferences. Female anatomy and preferences are quite different. Start with gentle licking covering more surface area. Imagine you’re licking ice cream dripping down a cone.

2017 study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found women prefer certain techniques, like changing up strokes (up and down, then circling), circles around the clit, or repeated rhythmic motions.

Getting Inspired

If she’s so inclined, you can try watching porn with oral sex. Lesbian porn can add inspiration to the experience.

Other Techniques

Things you can try include licking the clit side to side or up and down or gently sucking on it between licks and strokes. Before you suck it, ask; it’s painful for some. If she’s into anal play, comply by all means. You can alternate cunnilingus with rimming.

You can explore different spots by working in a figure-eight motion. Make sure you take it slow and tune in to the signs. She might start shivering, moaning, or breathing heavily. Then, just keep doing what you’re doing.

Some men aren’t good at following directions. In this case, she might point you by using her hips and thighs to move her pelvis to the right or left, or closer or farther away from you.

With that, we come to the best positions for oral sex.

Oral sex Positions

To make things easier on your neck, place a pillow under her butt to raise the hips. This will help avoid cramps and put your head and neck in a comfortable position. Changing the position of your body can create different sensations by stimulating different areas. It depends on how long she needs to orgasm, of course.

The different positions include giving oral sex on your knees, from the side, from behind and, of course, face sitting. We explore them in our final section.

Knees

Giving oral sex on your knees is arousing regardless of the receiver’s gender. For extra clit exposure, don’t forget to spread the lips.

From the Side

Also known as the Kivin method, this is where the receiver lies on her back. Your body is perpendicular to hers. This position gives the potential of accessing more sensitive areas and offers more stimulation to the vulva as well as a new angle.

From Behind

She takes doggy-style position, you get behind her, and so it goes. If she likes rimming, this is the perfect option.

Face Sitting

This one hardly needs an introduction. It gives a lot of access to her body and provides you with a great angle, from which you can grab her butt or breasts.

Sitting in a Chair

This is a rare one you can try. You have easy access from below with her legs to the sides of the chair.


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