You never know what life has in store for you, and that can be especially true for long-term relationships. You can meet The One, get married, and be completely infatuated with the idea of having sex with your honey bear, and only your honey bear for the rest of your life—only to have the talk several years later. By that, we mean the talk about consensual non-monogamy or, more specifically in this conversation, adult swinging. Interested? That’s a good sign you should keep reading…
Why Choose Adult Swinging?
Are you very much in love with your significant other but sex is no longer what it used to be? Do you dread the idea of having sex only with your partner for as long as you live? Monogamy is quite a challenge to most people, whether they admit it or not. As far as adult swinging is concerned, most people turn to it for any number of reasons:
- They are bored of their sexual routine and want to have exciting new experiences with their partner.
- They feel they aren’t getting all of their needs satisfied, or they wish to explore their sexuality.
- One partner has lost interest in sex or can’t keep up with their S.O.’s drive, so they decide to try swinging.
- Many couples love watching others have sex, or they enjoy watching each other receive pleasure from others (a form of compersion). Adult swinging can fulfil all kinds of fantasies that can’t be achieved between two people alone.
- The thrill of swinging and having sex with others – together – can be incredibly arousing to certain couples.
- Some couples simply don’t gel with monogamy and adult swinging allows them to be who they are.
Why Go to Sex Clubs?
If you’ve ever heard about sex clubs, you’re probably a little bit curious. Who even goes to clubs for sex? Do you have to be a total freak to have fun? Actually, couples and singles of all different backgrounds enjoy sex clubs, as they are incredibly inclusive and focused on consent. That’s why, when learning about swinging, you may run into terms like “soft swap” or “hard swap.” All couples have different interests and boundaries, and the more you put yourself out there, the more likely you are to find the perfect partner(s) for you and your S.O.!
Of course, you can’t really know what a sex club is like unless you go to one. Different clubs have different rules (for example, single men are not always allowed and sometimes must pay a high fee for entrance) but with the lifestyle’s popularity growing, you’re sure to find a great local place for you! Best of all, there’s no pressure to ~do~ anything. Most couples who go to a club for the first time are simply there as spectators to dip their toes in and get to know the local scene. It’s a great way to make friends and ask questions. Find clubs near you here!
Is Swinging Right for You?
If the idea of going to a sex club sounds appealing, or even just bringing home sexy couples to play with you and your S.O., then you can bet swinging is something worth thinking about. That said, it’s not for everyone. Couples who struggle with jealousy, lying, cheating, or any other issues which might be exacerbated by involving new people in your sexcapades, should NOT consider swinging until they’ve worked these things out. If there’s one thing most swingers hate, it’s drama. Leave it at home!
On the other hand, if you and your partner have a solid foundation and are coming into swinging from a place of love, then with lots of communication and boundary-setting, swinging is sure to add a LOT to your sex life! At the end of the day, it all comes down to who you are and what you want. Are you an open-minded person who seems to enjoy the idea of watching your partner have sex with someone else? Does this turn you on or does this make you crazy? Swinging should be an activity that you do together because you BOTH want it. Stay on the same page, and you’re sure to get all you want and more out of the lifestyle!
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