How to Keep Your Swinger Life a Secret

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Life as a swinger is fun, exciting, and full of so much exploration. But, it’s not exactly something that you want to tell all your friends and family about. And believe it or not, many people choose to keep their swinger life a secret altogether. This is especially true for people with high-ranking positions, certain professionals, and those who are more conservative about their sex life.

In this article, we’re giving you all the advice on keeping your swinger life a secret and still enjoying the lifestyle. We’ll be talking about why you might consider staying on the down-low and some advice for keeping it that way. Then, we’re offering some resources for helping you stay quiet about your swinger life. 

Why Would You Want to Keep Your Swinger Life a Secret?

As mentioned above, there are a number of different reasons why people choose to hide their swinger life. Many of these include:

  • Fear of judgemental/religious family and friends
  • The possibility of losing a professional position
  • Legal or personal issues with a past lover

woman working to keep swinger life a secret

The Top Tips for Keeping Your Swinger Life a Secret

Regardless of the reason, there are definitely some steps that can be taken to keep your swinger life a secret. This is even true if you have roommates, close friends, or adult children who keep tabs on your life. Here are five helpful tips for keeping your swinger life private from others. 

  • Offer a Simple, Short Explanation

When someone does start asking questions about your late-night outings or new friends, offer a short, concise explanation. It doesn’t have to be a lie, but it doesn’t have to be the whole truth either. And the rule of thumb is the fewer details, the better. 

  • Keep Your Cover Consistent

To prevent doubt, keep your cover story consistent with everyone you tell. Don’t tell your mom that you’re going to play BINGO and your kids that you’re taking a stroll downtown. A simple, consistent cover story is one that generates the least amount of questions. 

  • Get on the Internet

Someone keeping their swinger life a secret probably isn’t comfortable reaching out to a new friend and asking if they’re also a swinger. This is where the Internet really comes in handy. Here, you can mask your real identity while connecting with other swingers in the area. You can also establish your rules for anonymity before meeting. 

Cover Story Ideas that You Can Use

  • Attending a concert
  • Going on a work conference
  • Taking advantage of a Groupon deal
  • Viewing a sports tournament
  • Visiting relatives
  • Going to a dance club

anonymous couple keeping swinger life a secret

Resources to Help You Keep Your Swinger Life a Secret

Balancing your daily responsibilities with your swinger nightlife doesn’t have to be a difficult or complicated task. Instead, it’s something that can be done effortlessly with a little preparation. Allow SwingTowns to help you navigate the swinging lifestyle while also keeping your true identity private until the right time. Before you know it, you’ll be a swinging ninja pro. 


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