How to Get Started Swinging | Advice for the First Time Swinger

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Anyone can get started swinging, whether you’re 21 or 65, coupled or even single. The lifestyle is called “inclusive” for a reason. But that doesn’t mean you should just jump right in without doing any research. 

Here, we give some of our best swinging tips for beginners.

  1. Sign up for SwingTowns. This is both a shameless plug and a genuine tip. Wether you live in a big city or a smaller town, you’ll find exactly what you’re looking for on our site which features the biggest community of non-monogamous people on the web! Unlike most popular dating apps where everyone and their mother will be looking for “the one” or typical one-on-one hookups, our users will be looking for all the same things you are. It’s simply the fastest way to get started swinging — the RIGHT way!
  2. Start with clubs. It’s a fun, low-pressure way to introduce yourself to the lifestyle. Go and talk to other couples, make out with them, or just get down with each other and see if others watch. The more you go, the further you can go — as long as you and your partner are comfortable. Shameless plug part 2: find every club or group near you with our convenient swinger event calendar after you sign up
  3. Discuss limits with your partner beforehand. This is crucial. If you don’t come up with rules (e.g. look but don’t touch, stay close at all times, no PIV sex, whatever else feels right to you) you are asking for problems in your relationship that may never be resolved. Even long-time swingers have boundaries. They don’t have to stay the same forever, but you must always respect them and never try to change them in the heat of the moment. Trust is everything
  4. Be honest — and polite. Ask for what you want and don’t try to be something you’re not. There’s nothing wrong with a simple “no thanks” and moving on. This is the fastest way for everyone to find what they’re looking for.
  5. Go at your own pace. Most couples shouldn’t be pushy, but if they are, walk away. Consent first!

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