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If you’re one of the many couples out there just dipping your toes into the swinging lifestyle, you might be wondering how to go about things in this new world of social distancing and isolation. It’s obvious that dating, sex, and even swinging are going virtual. What about swingers groups? Though many are finding creative ways to have fun online, this pandemic isn’t going to last forever… now’s the time to do your research so that by the time your local swinger clubs are back up and running, you and your S.O. know ~exactly~ how to make up for lost time.

Why should you join swingers groups?

If you’re new to the lifestyle, chances are: you’re nervous. Everyone is at first. While your gut reaction might be to start with something that seems simple (a threesome with a trusted friend, for example) joining a popular swingers group can actually be a great first step. Why? There’s no pressure. Plenty of first time swingers join swinger groups just to see what it’s all about, no ~socializing~ involved. They talk to other couples, make friends, ask questions, then go home and discuss. That’s it. One or two visits is usually enough to inform you about the scene and whether you really want to take that leap into opening up your relationship.

Of course, there are lots of questions you an ask yourself before your first swinging experience to see if the lifestyle might be right for you: are you satisfied with your relationship? If not, what are you hoping to gain through swinging? When you just want to spice up your sex life, and you have no interest in forming emotional bonds outside of your primary relationship, then the lifestyle can be a great way to achieve that. If, on the other hand, you love your sex life and your relationship, but you wonder if you have more love to give, you should consider whether you might be polyamorous.

Either way, it’s important to note that being non-monogamous doesn’t have to mean there are problems in your relationship, or that you love your partner any less. In fact, many swingers and polyamorous people have incredibly healthy relationships and may even be happier than their monogamous counterparts. Basically, our moms were right: we’re all special snowflakes and our needs are individual! You and your S.O. just need to find your own rhythym, social constructs be damned.

What are the pros of joining swinging groups?

Deciding to take on swinging is not easy for most people. It involves a lot of unpacking of arbitrary social rules, and at times it may feel scary or even wrong. That’s why it’s critical to set boundaries, take things slow, and talk, talk, TALK. Before you even begin a search for swinging groups, you need to have an honest conversation with your S.O. about all of your wants, needs, and fears so that you’re both on the same page. When done right, joining swinging groups can have numerous advantages. You can…

  • Meet new people (and also sleep with them!)
  • Become a better lover through practice with new partners
  • Explore new sides of your sexuality
  • Fulfill your wildest sexual fantasies
  • Become closer to your partner

Many people who join swinging groups are happier, more confident lovers who achieve greater satisfaction in their relationships. Although swinging is not for everyone, there are many couples who have changed their lives when they adopted swinging and who can no longer imagine their lives without it. 

How can you find swingers?

Although there are many swinger couples and singles out there, it’s hard to find them offline. While the lifestyle is gaining popularity all over the world, it’s still taboo enough that most participants like to remain discreet. That’s why your best bet is to search for swinging groups on websites or apps for swingers, like SwingTowns: the World’s Friendliest Dating Site!

Home to millions of members all over the globe, SwingTowns is the best site out there to find who and what you’re looking for in the lifestyle. Joining our reliable website for swingers is a simple process that takes less than two minutes. Best of all, while some dating sites charge hefty subscription fees, SwingTowns offers its basic membership 100% free. That means you can sign up and start chatting with local hotties right away! Start by asking questions, making friends, and browsing our directory to find swingers groups that will welcome you and your partner. Swingers can be found in just about every major city in the U.S., U.K., and Canada — and most small towns! If there’s a scene in your area, you will find it at SwingTowns.com. 

Grab your free membership now! 

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