How Can You Convince Your Partner to Have an MMF Threesome?

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Short answer: you can’t. But you can certainly entertain the discussion. An MMF threesome (literally: a male/male/female threesome) can be a great way to introduce you and your partner to ethical non-monogamy. It can also be a lot of fun as a simple one-and-done thing. Of course, if you don’t go about it the right way, you can introduce a lot of problems to your relationship. As a newbie, everything must be done carefully – from your first conversation about it to what you both agree to in the bedroom.

There could be any number of reasons why you’re interested in an MMF threesome. Maybe you’re interested in exploring your sexuality. Maybe you’re considering the swinger lifestyle and thought this might be a good way to kick things off, so to speak. Or maybe you just think it would be fun.

Regardless, you’ve come to the right place! We can offer you all the advice you need to have a successful MMF threesome, and help you find the right partner to do it with. That’s because SwingTowns is the world’s friendliest dating site with millions of non-monogamous people all over the world. Once you’re ready to jump in, go create your free profile to connect with like-minded people and finally fulfill that delicious fantasy of yours.

An MMF threesome can be a delicate subject

If you have had a monogamous relationship until now and are interested in spicing up your love life, an MMF threesome can be a big step. You might go into it thinking you’re both ready only to run into any number of problems (your man’s insecurity about his size or how the other man pleasures you, etc). It’s important to take your first few non-monogamous encounters slow, checking in with each other every step of the way, and doing your best to prepare for every scenario as you go along. Then, create a couple’s profile on Swingtowns.com, where you can chat with other couples and maybe even set up a date or decide to meet up at a swingers’ club. With the right precautions, you’re sure to have some wonderful experiences!

Swinger couples might be more receptive to experimenting

If you are one of those swinger couples that are always prepared to try something new, the MMF threesome will not be a problem. Similarly, when you’ve been on the swingers’ scene for a while, you already know most of the people that you see in a club or at parties. When you know what you’re getting yourself into, and you have the right boundaries / expectations in place, every encounter can be just as good (or even better) than the last!

Finding swingers near me or single males that are interested in a MMF threesome is the easy part. What needs extra attention is how you communicate with your partner. When bringing it up to your partner, don’t assume anything. They might be completely turned off by the idea of a threesome – or maybe they’ve been thinking about it just as long as you have! In fact, many swinger couples wind up in the lifestyle by chance. They just start talking about it and find that they were both interested in non-monogamy all along.

On the other hand, you should be prepared in case your partner hates the idea or even feels hurt by the suggestion. Frame it in a way that lets them know you are not unhappy in the relationship or bored of them (these are not good reasons to enter the lifestyle). Instead, frame it as a chance to spice things up a little for both of you. If they still don’t want to do it, respect their choice and don’t try to push them. It isn’t the right time or it’s not meant to be.

Finding swingers near me can be a challenge if you are just starting out

The good news is that finding swingers near me is not going to be a problem if you sign up on Swingtowns.com. We offer you more than just access to the right people, but also a variety of interesting features that will help make your love life as exciting as it can be. The key here is to make sure that you don’t just do it without talking about it with your partner. If you want to start something fun online, on a swinger site, see what your significant other has to say about it.

Once you have established some ground rules, you can go ahead and have some fun, especially as you can come across swingers that are ready to share this experience with you. You never know who you might find online. You may have a few conversations before stumbling upon someone that will spark your interest and the one of your partner.

Having a threesome can be an experience that will change your life

Having that threesome will require all the enthusiasm and consent of your partner. It might not be an easy conversation, but if things work out, it could really amp up your sex life. You’ll never know unless you take a chance! Just start slow (even when you’re talking about it) and allow things to evolve naturally. You can always refer to our blog for tips and advice or even chat online with experienced couples on our platform.

Even if your partner is not ready or interested, it doesn’t mean that they will never be. If or when they are, try going to a swingers’ club and see what happens. It is useful to communicate your feelings as you go along. This way, your partner will understand you and you will both have the chance to perfect this lifestyle so that it matches your needs and expectations.

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