With most of the country more or less shutting down amid the coronavirus pandemic, lots of couples are still asking: can I swing? The answer, of course, is absolutely not. COVID-19 is extremely contagious, especially with person-to-person contact. Mortality is a real risk for the elderly, children, and the immunocompromised, but healthy people are at risk too.
Does that mean you should give up on the fun all together? Heck no!
The beautiful thing about having access to a phone or computer is there’s still plenty of sexy times to be had virtually. From swapping videos and pics to hosting a porn watch party, there’s little you can’t do as swingers while still maintaining all of CDC’s recommendations — including social distancing. That said, it’s important to note a few things about how the virus spreads so that you understand just why social distancing is so important right now (possibly even from any sexual partners you might be living with).
Physical Contact is Dangerous
You’re probably aware of the primary ways that COVID-19 spreads: namely coughing, sneezing, and anything else that might cause one’s respiratory droplets to spew from their holes (there was probably a better way to say that). But did you know it can also spread through an infected person’s saliva? Yes, unfortunately, even smooching can be dangerous if you live with someone carrying the virus.
You might be thinking of some loopholes here, but don’t go disappearing with your partner yet. Many carriers don’t show any signs of illness, which means they can get you sick without knowing it (or vice versa)! This means that whether your partner is showing symptoms or not, avoiding oral play won’t necessarily protect you. It’s also important to note that while COVID-19 isn’t thought to be transmitted via semen or vaginal fluid, it can be found in carrier feces (so anal play is out of the picture too).
“Swing” Virtually, Self-Pleasure, and Listen to the CDC
At the end of the day, sex with a partner — whether they live with you or not — does pose some danger. Still, the weeks, months, or however long it takes to #FlattenTheCurve can seem like an unbearably long time to go without being intimate. As social beings who require physical attention, we need to find ways to fulfill these desires as best as we can in these unique circumstances. Sex where there is no risk of the virus being spread (i.e. when you have been tested negative and continue to practice social distancing in other areas of your life) should be perfectly fine. In any case, stay up to date on CDC news and recommendations for the best course of action!
Of course, the safest sex of all will always be with yourself. Video or phone calling your partner, or finding people to “date” online, can make this experience feel more intimate even when there is no physical touching involved. You should continue to prioritise other areas of your social life by virtually keeping in touch with friends and family, and staying occupied when you find yourself in isolation.