Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Dildos

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Oh yes, dildos! You know the ones — those phallic symbols we all love to love to love. They’re great for that solo crescendo to orgasm, but what about adding them to your partnership or situationship as a staple?

Mmm, not a bad idea, I hear you thinking. And yes, for most couples it absolutely is, especially when you take all the great benefits into account. Why not explore your options a little?

The way you use dildos can be exceptionally interesting, exciting, and mind-blowingly awesome, too! Here, we’re going to look at the types you can choose from, what you can do with them, and taking it to the next level so you can skyrocket your bedroom antics.

Types of dildos

If you’ve ever looked at sex-toy catalogs, online shops, or even perused a local sex-toy store, you probably know just how many purchase choices are out there for dildos. Answer: more than anyone can count! You’ll find different styles, colors, features, and shapes to match your interests.

There’s so much to decide on!

Some of the big dildos won’t be your favorites, but that doesn’t mean they all won’t appeal to you. Here are just some of the options available to you: Inflatable dildos, vibrating dildos, non-vibrating dildos, small dildos, glass dildos, black dildos, realistic dildos, suction cup dildos, strap on dildos, soft dildos, jelly dildos…

Oh gosh, that’s definitely a lot. In fact, you have such a variety of things to choose from that you shouldn’t stop at having just one. Begin your own ‘treasure trove’ of delight and buy as many as you like!

Overwhelmed? Don’t be! Shopping for dildos is part of the fun, especially if your partner helps you to do it.

In the bedroom you can…


Well… after you’ve decided on what you want, you’ll be able to use your dildo (or dildos) to tease, excite, enhance foreplay, or let your partner take the bull by the horns, metaphorically speaking.

You probably already know what your partner likes, but if not, you can use your new toy as an opportunity for exploration. For example, you can masturbate with the dildo to create exciting visual imagery. Your partner might even want you to use it on them, depending upon their preferences. On the other hand, if they like being in control, then submitting to them so they can pleasure you might just be the sexiest thing since sliced bread.

Whatever you do, a dildo can be one of the most exciting things that you add to the bedroom as it can be used to enhance the trust and attraction of your relationship.

Teasing as a tool of bonding

couple teasing

Teasing is the best part, really.

You might practice oral on your dildo, or maybe go solo as your partner watches, taking it slow and using the tip to tease and excite. Of course, you don’t have to leave foreplay to the bedroom. Catch your partner when they least expect it and whisper to them what you might like to do with the toy later on. You can also text them, phone them, or have a fun little video call just between you two!

Teasing your partner is a great way to spice things up, and it reminds your partner just how attracted you are to them.

What’s your partner’s thang? Do they like it when you give them hints along the way? And, if so, have a think about how you might like to go about it.

Spontaneity can be very sexy, and it can ignite your entire bonding experience. Keeping your partner guessing as to your next “move” is thrilling, and can be something that’s important within a relationship.

So, what will your game play be with your newly-purchased dildo? A naughty picture in their DMs, perhaps? We’ll leave that one up to you, just remember to stay safe and only share photos with those you absolutely trust (you can thank us later).

Take it to the next level

Toys can be a very exciting and sexy way to bring couples closer together, but just how much of a role might intimacy play in a relationship? That’s up to you and your significant other to decide, of course.

Open up to your significant other so you’ll both know what you want, first and foremost. Making an emotional connection through intimacy can solidify the bond to a deeper level of commitment. I mean, humans need both a physical and an emotional connection with their partners as well.

Try to take time to set aside parts of the day for other types of intimacy too. That can mean cooking or conversations, watching movies, or anything else that means hanging out without the sexual context. Remember, you are friends as well as lovers. It’s important to remember one another’s emotional needs just as much as your physical needs. No amount of sex or sex toys will save a bad relationship. Plus, the greater your bond as friends, the more connected you will feel, and the better your sex will become!

Photo credits (in order): Iakov Filimonov, Dmytro Sidelnikov, Dean Drobot,

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