Struggling to get matched on SwingTowns? Maybe you’re just getting attention from the wrong people. If so, you’re probably (definitely) not doing some of the super important things on this list! Read on to learn how you can get more matches on SwingTowns.
Don’t be the stereotypical couple “looking for a third” who started their search without knowing anything about ethical non-monogamy. You know, the people who see unicorns as objects instead of people and who probably think opening things up will solve their relationship problems.
(A) It’s GROSS, and (B) it doesn’t work.
If this is your first foray into swinging or non-monogamy in general, you’ll want to know the things discussed in these articles:
Too many people are “looking for a third” like it’s literally their entire personality. It should go without saying, but if you don’t put any effort into your bio or messages, you’re not going to have much success. Why should anyone take you seriously if you don’t take them – or yourself – seriously?
There are so many perks that come with a SwingTowns “Extra” membership to make finding dates easy. You can:
Plus, there’s a special deal going on right now for those who opt in for a lifetime membership, so you’ll want to get it now.
Lots of people out there kind of struggle at taking pictures of themselves. Plus, not everyone has friends who will do it for them, or who are much better at it. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t find them attractive in person! If someone has a banging profile and you seem to have a lot in common, give them a shot. You might be really surprised once you meet them.
If you haven’t caught on by now, memes are pretty much the best way to open up a conversation on dating apps – if you do it right. That means whoever you message has to actually “get” what the meme is about, so take a good look at their profile to find something relatable. Do they love Bob’s Burgers? Find a funny quote to start the conversation. It’s way more interesting than a simple “hey” and is sure to lead to more conversation!
Wearing neutral colors in your profile picture can sometimes hurt your chances of getting matched simply because so many people do it. Think about it: if you see the same thing over and over again (i.e. while you’re scrolling or swiping through profile pictures), you will get bored and lose focus. So, stand out a little! Grab their attention with a color that pops. Just don’t do what everyone else is doing.
People like vulnerability. You don’t want to stare down the camera, but presenting your whole face clearly shows confidence and says you have nothing to hide. That means no hats or sunglasses, both of which statistically decrease your chances of getting a match. People tend to ignore profiles when they don’t know what someone looks like, so don’t get lost in the mix!
Dating is never easy and we all fear rejection, so don’t go for the sexy pout (which often ends up looking more like a scowl or bitch face anyway). People who smile in their profile pictures look way more approachable. They look friendlier and more welcoming, so of course you’ll get more interest!
Most people, whether they’re looking for anything serious or not, still want to date people they vibe with (hopefully you do too!) That’s why it’s a good idea to mix things up a little. Post pics of yourself doing some of your favorite activities, hanging out with your dog, going to the club with friends… You can even throw some memes that say a lot about you into the mix! The sky’s the limit. Just don’t be that boring person/couple who strictly posts body shots. What does that say about your personality?
Want more advice? Check out “Where Guys Screw Up When Messaging Women on Dating Sites.”