7 Important Lifestyle Friends with Benefits (FWB) Rules

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The FWB (Friends With Benefits) lifestyle can be simple but it can also be challenging. One of the most common personality traits that humans need to work on is emotional control. Many of us like to consider ourselves fully rational beings, but the moment our feelings are tested our emotions can spiral out of control. The lifestyle can and will test our limits. Today you might find yourself interested exclusively in a friends with benefits situation with someone you found in swinging groups. As soon as tomorrow you could experience a full shift in desire. Suddenly you want to change your adult swinging lifestyle expectations with your new partner.

If you want the most out of your relationships and erotic experiences then you will want to follow some basic rules. Fortunately for you, in this article you can find all of the important ones. In our view anyone that starts an FWB relationship should properly follow them. As long as you do that, then you can be sure that your FWB relationships will be as safe as possible, and you will have a far higher probability of pleasure and enjoyment. Moreover, the benefits that you can expect to receive from this relationship will be magnified. The 7 rules you should always keep in mind are:

#1 Not every friend is a good fit for FWB

In the vast majority of cases, it’s almost never a good idea to create an FWB relationship with an existing friend. Doing so could strain and even destroy the friendship. While these sexual connections are a part of the adult swinging lifestyle, and they can (and do) sometimes develop into long term relationships, it’s typically not worth taking the risk with existing friends. It’s best to use swingers groups to find the friend you need for an FWB.

#2 Set your expectations from the beginning

The best way to cultivate a healthy and fun FWB relationship for as long as possible is to have  clear expectations from the outset. You and your new found friend must establish the rules from the beginning. You should never assume anything because doing so could end in disaster. The very best way to avoid trouble is to establish rules and to set boundaries from the start. Once expectations are established, both you and your friend should commit to respecting  them. This is one of the core rules of an FWB relationship. As long as you manage your expectations properly you should be well on your way to maximizing time, pleasure and sexual gratification that this type of relationship brings.

#3 Be discreet  

Discretion and personal privacy is a must. It is almost always important to at least one, usually both parties involved, in an FWB relationship and should be respected. You and your friend must discuss and respect privacy. It is probably one of the most important rules of all.

#4 Keep your feelings in check

As mentioned in the beginning of the article, feelings can be difficult to control. You will want to do your best to keep them in check when participating in an FWB relationship and in the adult swinging lifestyle in general. If your goal is to avoid a serious relationship, then you must do all you can to prevent an emotional connection from developing. It’s almost impossible to participate in an FWB relationship if  you begin to experience an emotional connection. If that happens generally the relationship status changes.

#5 Do not forget the F from FWB

Obviously everyone knows how to enjoy the B part of an FWB and you should enjoy as much play time as the both of you want. Another great benefit is that you get to meet new open minded friends. Sometimes these friendships, believe it or not, can be just as exciting as the erotic pleasures. This is yet another benefit of finding local swingers groups. Communicate with your new friend and the possibilities are endless. Always remember however, that you  need to make sure that the boundaries are clear — you are not a “couple” — you are in an FWB relationship,

#6 Jealousy is a sign you should be very aware of

If the FWB relationship is starting to evolve into something else, something more substantive, then jealousy can appear. This is usually not a good sign in an FWB relationship. You can ask almost anyone with experience from swinging groups. There are only a few things that can be done. One would be to stop the relationship altogether. Another option might be to become a monogamous couple. Yet another may be a try at polyamory. All viable options and communication will be the cornerstone in giving the relationship the best possible outcome.

#7 Maximize your enjoyment

Unlike the other rules, this one is focused on the benefits of the FWB. You should keep in mind that this type of relationship can be very open and without restrictions. This can be an amazing opportunity to explore new things. You can use swingers groups, or you can be open with your FWB, and you can try together many new and exciting sexual experiences. It’s  recommended to try as many new things, discussing them along the way, to create the best possible relationship dynamic. Only by taking this approach can you expect to learn what you enjoy and what you don’t. If you are ready to get started be sure to create a free account today on SwingTowns and start learning more about yourself and the process.


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