6 Common Misconceptions About Swinging

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When it comes to swinging and partner swapping, misconceptions often run rampant. That’s because, despite its growing popularity, discussing these kinds of topics is still considered taboo. However, as conversations (like this one) continue to open up, the myths will be put to rest.

Here are the most common misconceptions about swinging and the actual truth to refute them.

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14 Common Misconceptions About Swinging

1. Swingers aren’t happy in their relationship.

Not only do swingers often enjoy a more passionate love life, but they also tend to be up to 20% happier than those in monogamous relationships. This is because most couples who swing have better communication skills and higher self-esteem.

2. STDs run rampant among swinger groups. 

Believe it or not, infidelity is extremely common in monogamous relationships. In fact, some studies estimate the numbers to be as high as 25%. And, unfortunately, many people aren’t using protection when cheating on their significant other. Because of this fact, swingers were found to be at no higher risk for STDs than traditional monogamous couples.

3. Swinging is Cheating. 

While we are talking about couples having sex outside of their relationship, swinging is still not cheating. It’s actually a form of consensual non-monogamy, similar to polyamory or an open relationship. The difference between swinging and cheating is the consent and trust aspect of it.

4. Couples only Swing for the Husband.

While men do tend to have higher sex drives than their wives, swinging doesn’t appear to be a male-dominated endeavor. Most women enjoy swinging just as much as their husbands and reap benefits like increased confidence and more sexual variety.

5. Swingers are Rare.

There are an estimated 15 million Americans who enjoy the swinging lifestyle.

6. All Swingers are Kinky. 

Swinging is a type of open relationship, but not all swingers are into kink. While kink can weave its way into the swinging community, plenty of swingers only enjoy sexual experiences that are more vanilla.

Who Swingers Really Are

You might be surprised to know that swingers are pretty picky people!  They aren’t typically out there having sex with anything that moves, or blindly seeking a place to stick their dicks in a dark room.  Nor are they nymphomaniacs who are setting up playtime seven days a week either.  Swingers are your everyday people.

They are your favorite doctor.
A trusted attorney.
Swingers are school teachers, gym coaches, best friends, and sometimes, the worship leader at your church!
You’ve likely met dozens of different swingers before you even enter the lifestyle!

And, swingers come with various sexual preferences too.  Never assume you know someone’s sexual preference just because they are a swinger. To be clear, “swinger” is not a word that is interchangeable with “bisexual”.  These words have two separate meanings.  If you are curious about a swinger’s sexual preferences, just ask! I’m sure he/she would be happy to give you the rundown on what they like… if you ask nicely!

Speaking of what swingers like — kink isn’t a given. Sometimes swinger sex is when two couples meet at home for dinner and slip away to separate rooms.  Other times, swinger sex looks like an orgy with friends. It’s sex in various ways with a lot of diversity. If you like kinky fuckery, SwingTowns can help you find the right group to connect with.

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