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Meeting and connecting with couples in the swinger lifestyle at a swingers meet up can definitely feel a little intimidating. And, it’s common for questions like these to run through your mind:

What will we talk about?

How will I know if they’re right for us?, and

Is there anything I should ask them?

But, getting to know a new swinger couple doesn’t have to be a stressful experience. This is especially true if you and your partner have already thoroughly discussed rules, desires, and limits. In fact, knowing your own interests and fantasies can be a great starting point for conversations with other couples. 

In this article, we’re going to talk about those first few conversations, and how they might happen. Then, we’re sharing four of the best questions you should ask a new swinger couple to decide whether you want to continue the relationship. 

How Do You Connect with a New Swinger Couple?

There are so many different ways to connect with swinger couples in your area, depending on your comfort level. Some of the most common ways for swingers to meet up are:

In today’s digital age, it’s easier than ever to meet new swinger couples right from your living room. Using the convenience of lifestyle websites, like SwingTowns, you can browse swinger profiles and learn about upcoming events in your area. 

  • Swinger Clubs

If you’re located near a larger metropolitan area, you might even be lucky enough to have a swinger club within driving distance. These places are designated for those in the lifestyle and often boast features, like hot tubs, private bedrooms, and group play areas. 

new swinger couple hanging out drinking wine

4 Questions You Should Ask a New Swinger Couple

Meeting up with a swinger couple you’re interested in is one of the most exciting experiences in the lifestyle. It’s important to remember to ask the right questions though, as this can help prevent any feelings of regret later down the line. Four of the best questions to consider asking a new swinger couple are:

1. What’s your favorite drink? Do you like dancing?

Meeting people in the lifestyle is not much different than meeting new friends. And, a great place to start the conversation is by getting to know the couple you’re talking to. Ask about their favorite drink (and buy one for them if you want), invite them to the dance floor, and discuss other everyday interests. 

2. How long have you been in the lifestyle?

It’s absolutely helpful to have some discussions pertaining to the lifestyle before jumping right into bed with another couple. You can start by asking about how long they’ve been swinging and some experiences they’ve had. Asking about any existing rules can also help you get to know them better. 

3. When was your last STI screening? 

If you take STI prevention and protection seriously, make sure to share that with the other couple. This conversation could also branch out into the discussion of certain rules and preferences. You can also take this time to ask about birth control.

4. What are you looking to get out of the lifestyle?

It’s not always the most fun to talk about rules and expectations, so break up the serious talk with some fantasies. Take some time to discuss dreams and desires. See if you have any experiences in common on your swinger bucket list. Who knows? You might just make each other’s dreams come true.


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