Though swingers continue to grow in popularity, a pervasive negative stigma still surrounds this relationship style. Many people believe that swingers are unhappy, unhealthy, and unfulfilled in their relationships. And, for this reason, monogamous couples continue to thumb their noses at those who choose unconventional relationships.
This is unfortunate because many swingers have gone through incredible growth in their relationships and personal lives. And, they have a thing or two to teach us all. In this article, we’re looking at the many important lessons that monogamous couples can learn from swingers.
4 Relationship Skills Monogamous Couples Can Learn from Swingers
Believe it or not, swingers take their relationships very seriously. Despite common beliefs, they don’t rush into any and every sexual situation. And, they’ve often spent a surprising amount of time on their own growth and development. While it’s true that swinging isn’t for everyone, there are still some lessons to be learned from the lifestyle. Here are four of them.
1. It’s Important to Know Yourself
Before you can ever truly connect with a partner, it’s important to connect with yourself. How well do you really know yourself?
Can you name your deepest fantasy?
Do you know your hard limits?
What do you desire most in the bedroom?
Answering the questions surrounding yourself and your needs is one of the best ways to ensure that you feel fulfilled in your relationship, swinger or not. That’s because knowing your needs helps you communicate them.
2. Compersion is a Beautiful Thing
In a relationship world where jealousy rules, it’s important to practice the opposite of jealousy. Compersion is the ability to feel genuine joy for someone else, even if there are no real benefits for you. Swingers not only enjoy the opportunity to practice compersion, but they relish in it. That’s because nothing brings them joy like seeing their partner feeling joy.
3. Communication is Everything
Communication is the foundation for any swinger relationship. Between talking about themselves, discussing each other, and negotiating desires and limits, communication is crucial for successful swinging. It might be surprising to hear that most people in the lifestyle spend more time talking about it than actually engaging in anything sexual. Swinging is so much more than just running out and having an orgasm. It’s a lifestyle, and it requires the work that any lifestyle does.
4. Your Relationship, Your Rules
Possibly one of the best lessons we can all learn from swingers is how to take our relationships into our own hands. Swingers are constantly met with resistance and judgment. And, they don’t let it change them. Swingers choose the relationship style that meets their needs, regardless of what society says.
And, you can do the same. In your relationships, you work together to set the rules. No one is required to do things the “normal” way, just because that’s what everyone else is doing. Not only can that lead to dissatisfaction, but it also denies a large part of who you are in the name of fitting in.
From Monogamy to Swingers
Are you and your partner thinking about introducing the swinging lifestyle to your own relationship? It’s not as difficult as you think! Check out the SwingTowns Forums to connect with real swingers in your area, and don’t forget to read more helpful tips and tricks on the blog.